POLYGAMY IS THE ANSWER TO THE BLACK WOMAN’S HUSBAND PRO

December 12, 2018

OGUNDE OOOO!- WITH 17 WIVES OOOO!-OMO YORUBA-NIGERIA OOO!

The Fascinating True Story of a Man, His Seventeen Wives and the Beginning of Nollywood.

‘Funmi Oyatogun
Nov 21, 2017
“This is a fascinating story”, I thought — a man with seventeen wives and many children, who traveled around the country acting plays and creating films. Ogun State tourism is incomplete without the Hubert Ogunde Living History Museum and this could be one of Nigeria’s best museums yet.

Hubert Ogunde. Photo by Guardian NG
“What’s there to see in this museum?” I asked my contact over the phone, after exchanging pleasantries. I was hoping to hear some enticing reasons beyond the vague descriptions on the internet. “You’ll see when you get here,” he said. I tried another approach. “Please, how are you related to him? Are you a grandson?” In a whisper, he promised to tell me when I arrived at the museum. I was getting none of the details I was expecting but I was eager to visit with a small group of five TVP Adventures tourists. So, my expectations were at the barest minimum — perhaps there would be a few photos of his lifetime and a showcase of his barely preserved clothes and shoes. I was sure that we would learn one or two things about his life and work and maybe a few heavily curated stories about his seventeen wives. “This is a fascinating story”, I thought — a man with seventeen wives and many children, who traveled around the country acting plays and creating films.

The drive from Abeokuta to Ososa was smooth and straightforward. During the one-hour drive, we chatted about some of everything with our chatter interrupted only by the verbal directions from Google Maps. We found the museum easily — a bold signpost welcomes guests to a large bungalow nestled among trees in a well-maintained and spacious compound. As the curator welcomed us, we were quickly briefed about the rules of the museum — no photos inside and no touching of museum items. It is no surprise that Ogunde’s former home is tasteful and artistic without being flamboyant. Beside the building is an old bus and a lorry — actual tour buses used by the Ogunde travelling theater with mega phones used to advertise as they drove through towns. Beside the buses is the engine of an aircraft used to create heavy winds and rain in one of Ogunde’s movies. “He put a lot effort into his work because he loved theater”, the curator explains. But there is no need for the explanation because every inch of every wall of every room in that house exudes passion and exquisite taste.

TVP Adventures: Our tour group with the Hubert Ogunde’s Travelling Buses. Photo by Ibinabo Oyibo
Hubert Ogunde was a tall and built man, so the enormous statue in front of his house is no exaggeration. It shows him dressed up in the garb from one of his plays while beating a replica of the drum that no other person played in his lifetime. His cheek is punctured by a deep dimple and when he smiles, it deepens to reveal a gap in his front teeth. Ogunde was undeniably charming. When he was born in 1916 in the obscure Ososa town founded by his grandfather, there was no way of foreseeing his journey to becoming the grandfather of Nigerian drama. Despite only a total of seven years of formal primary education, he would eventually hone a command of English that exceeded university levels at that time. With Christian parents who revered traditional customs and demagogues, Ogunde grew up as an enthusiast of Nigerian folklore. Every profession in his life —first church organist then teacher then police officer, would become useful in creating the dramatist that he was. One day, a church in Lagos would sponsor the production of his first play and when he astonished the crowd of over 1000, his professional career in theater was born.

While he was a brilliant entertainer, his plays and dances addressed societal and political realities that were sometimes uncomfortable for the government. He was arrested and fined a number of times and even banned for years at a stretch. Sometimes, he would escape to nearby Dahomey (now the Republic of Benin) to escape the ban but never stopped performing with his troupe. A stint at a prestigious dance school in London enabled him incorporate folk-style dances in his plays. All of his influences are well documented in the museum and it is clear that whether it cost a mile or a million, Ogunde was never stingy with the quality of his productions. He was not wasteful though as he put every resource available to him to use, including his wives and children who were all integral parts of running the business. In fact, he saved much cost by filling much of his cast with family members.

At the museum, every single item has been painstakingly labelled and preserved for the public to learn from. Some of his personal clothes hang on the wall as they would have if he were alive while others are folded neatly in a wooden wardrobe. In his bedroom, there is a large bed — for a large man — and arm chairs surrounding the bed. Someone makes a joke about the need for Ogunde to have such a spacious bedroom and an unusually large bed, especially as the better part of one of the walls is adorned with a large family tree. Ogunde’s seventeen wives and their children are pictured on the tree. “I am his grandson,” our guide eventually confesses, as he points to his grandmother — Ogunde’s first wife. The spacious bedroom opens up into two other rooms — one, a prayer room with enough chairs for him and his wives and floor space for his children, and the other room — a meditation room that allows breeze from the airy compound. His expensive film equipment are carefully preserved in another room while there are at least three rooms containing props, costumes and detailing full scenes from some of his popular plays and films. There are countless albums and magazines with dates as far back as the ’60s. Old posters show that some of his plays cost 1 Pound and others cost 3 Naira; figures enough to evoke nostalgia. I am most fascinated by his dining room where awards adorn his show glasses and there are photos with interesting people such as a young Jide Kosoko and Adeyemi Afolayan whose sons have continued the advancement of Nigerian drama.

Hubert Ogunde with some of his wives.
Ogunde was a family man. It was important that all his wives could perform because the troupe needed them as much as he did. He would look for wives from nearby villages but never from Lagos where he lived for a long time. Throughout the museum, there is some indication as to who his favorites were — his documentary highlighted only a few women and some were exceptionally gifted actresses and dancers, making them most indispensable for the success of his troupe.

In the roll call of Nigerian museums, this one sits among the top. Even though Ogunde dies young, he lived a full and robust seventy four years and the museum is a spectacular reference to his legacy. It is indeed one of the historical treasures of Ogun State and will appeal to every Nigerian — whether or not they have a taste for art, theater or tourism. There is no doubt that Hubert Ogunde’s charm lives on through this museum and his family deserves the praise for that. I must say that could easily be one of Ogun State’s biggest potentials for tourism footfall.

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May 14, 2008

THIS YORUBA(NIGERIAN)ACTRESS WOULDN’T MIND BEING THE 10TH OR 15TH WIFE….FROM PUNCH NEWSPAPER(NIGERIA)

from punchng.com

Published 5/10/2008 3:59:00 AM

I wouldn’t have minded a man with 10 or 15 wives–Nike Peller

Adeola Balogun

As a daughter of the late magician, Professor Abiola Peller, Nike Peller, no doubt is a very popular actress especially in the Yoruba genre. However, in an industry where marriages are often the subject of headlines, the light complexioned actress has opted for a quiet marriage.

Her reasons?

“If I should marry a socialite, I suspect it might not work because I know the kind of person I am. You know, being a popular artiste is another kettle of fish entirely. You know too that my father used to be very popular while he was alive. It had really bothered me for a long time but I thank God for answering my prayers with the kind of man he gave me. He is so easygoing, does not want noise and allows me to focus on my job without distraction.”

She said her beau never knew she was an actress before he approached her.

“I must tell you that we just met in a normal way. Funnily enough, he did not know anything about me when we met. Even though I had been very popular on the screen before he met me, he was not aware of anyone called Nike Peller. In fact, when I told him that I was Nike Abiola, he asked which of the Abiolas. Incidentally, he said he was a classmate of my brother, Kayode Abiola Peller. It was later that I told him that I was an actress and he didn’t care. I must tell you that getting someone like that on a neutral level suits my kind of life; it gives me the confidence that he got hooked to me as I am, not because of what I am. You know there are some men out there whose target is to date actresses they watch on the screen and dump them afterwards. They take delight in counting their conquests among the popular artistes around.”

But before she got hooked to her man, Peller told Spectacles that she had about two relationships, which did not work out.

She said, “I would say I had two relationships, one in England and one in Nigeria here. I believe that, perhaps, God did not want them to work. One of the reasons for the break ups was hearsay. You know we are always on locations and when you cannot trust the person you are going out with, the relationship is meaningless. If a man tells you that he is at Oyingbo, believe him if you don’t want to give yourselves unnecessary stress. That was what happened with the guy in England then. For the guy in Nigeria, I think it was more of his family background. He is a Christian while I am a Muslim, maybe his family didn’t want him to get married to a Muslim. But that does not really matter, whether you are a Muslim or a Christian does not really matter, what I want is where I can get happiness. My present man is a Christian but he understands everything about me. We relate like a brother and sister, I am always happy around him. The guy trusts me and I trust him.”

Peller does not mind getting married to a polygamous man so far she is happy.

“As a Muslim, I can get married to someone who has 10, 15 wives so far I am happy with him, it is between him and me. That is no big deal.”

As an actress, Peller does not see any reason why everyone should see women who act as a wayward bunch.

According to her, “I don’t allow this actress thing or stardom to get into my head. Let me tell you something, there are some things I cannot do as an actress because of my name. After my job, the next thing is my home. No matter what, a wife should be submissive to her husband even if she is a millionaire. You know, I am a Muslim and in Islam, you have to submit yourself to your man even if you are the richest woman on earth.”

Sometimes back, his brother who is now a bishop of Fingers of God Ministry, Kayode Abiola Peller dismissed as fake the magic their late father was famous for. He said what his father was doing and which he also practised, was nothing but deception. But Nike would hear none of that.

She said, “He cannot say that because it worked. I would say that my father was only entertaining the crowd in his own way. I am not surprised that you said my brother called my father’s magic fake. He is now a pastor and believes that the old things have gone away. My brother then was involved in it, in fact he was then known as Young Peller. We used to travel together to perform magic everywhere, but now that he is born again, no problem. All what I know is that my father was the greatest man in his lifetime. He was known all over the world because of his wonderful magic. He handled it professionally together with his family.”

After the demise of the late magician, none of his numerous children continued in his line of trade despite the fact that they were all involved in the business while the patriarch was alive. Nike Peller told Spectacles the reason.

“You cannot practise magic all alone. When Professor Peller was alive, most of the children were much younger and it was easy for him to involve us in his trade. It was a family thing. But now, we have grown and are scattered all over the world. That is why it is not easy for any of us to continue. If by tomorrow someone says he wants to start, he will have to recruit either his family, train them or get people around. It is a very serious business. All the instruments are still intact; nobody has touched them. But what I think has happened is that people have moved on, they no longer believe in the stunts. But while the man was alive, he did his best entertaining his fans.”

With her brother, Kayode, the actress told Spectacles that they explored the world of magic before something ugly happened: Their magic failed them and the young Peller got involved in drugs until he got born again. But the actress recalled that it was much fun while the party lasted. She described her father as the best father who made sure that his children enjoyed fatherly love despite being a polygamous man with many children.

“Even if you were not his child, you were treated same way. That is why then, there were so many people, Igbo, Hausa, name it, that my father catered for. He was kind-hearted and generous to a fault. We lived in a very big environment. There was peace in the family. The role Otunba Toyin is playing now is what he inherited from our father; he will call up everyone to find out what is happening to everyone. Otunba Toyin is our first born, he lives in Ibadan. If he is coming now, you will think it is our father that is coming, he so much looks like him,” she said.

Peller has been described as one of the actresses that bleached their skin. But she told Spectacles that those who wrote that did not know her family.

She said, “Thank God you know my brother, the pastor. We are all light skinned in our house. How can anyone say I bleached my skin? I am naturally light in complexion. Those who say I bleached don’t know us. Look at me very well. Do I look like someone who bleached? I don’t know whether you have met someone who bleached, you will see some patches here and there which I don’t have. If they have said I tone my skin, yes, what is wrong in that? It is normal for a light complexioned person to tone her skin a little, which I do.”

Even though she admitted that entertainment flows naturally in every Peller child, Peller told Spectacles that she was taught how to act.

“I started acting while in the primary school. The man that taught me how to sing, dance and act is still alive. He is Mr Dokun Awolere, a newscaster at LTV8, Ikeja. He used to be my teacher in the primary school and I am very proud of him. But coming to acting in the real sense of it, I was in school, Institute of Technology, in Akure in 1987 when a friend of mine asked me to come for auditioning. I told them that I had lectures unless they wanted to shift it for me till weekend. I remember very well that I was paid three thousand naira then because I played the lead role. The film was Aye Lu. I appeared in Mosebolatan by Baba Sala but I was among the crowd. I remember that Baba used to perform magic with Baba Sala then in Ibadan.”

Peller told Spectacles that she worked hard to be in the reckoning of producers, her background notwithstanding. She recalled her journey into the acting world when she met the likes of Alade Aromire, Yinka Quadri and the like.

She said, “I tell people that I was invited to the industry, not that I lobbied or did something nasty to get roles, no. I did not date anyone in the industry. Before I became one of them, I had been close to most of those in charge then. The likes of Oga Bello, who was my in law. Some people did not know that I was not the one married to him, it was my sister, Idiat Peller, though she is late now.”

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April 28, 2008

“SINGER AKON PRACTICES POLYGAMY?” FROM RACIALICIOUS.COM

from racialicious.com

Singer Akon practices polygamy?
by Carmen Van Kerckhove

I’m not sure if this is for real, but according to Vibe Confidential:

Today my homegirl and co-worker, Hot 97 host Angie Martinez spoke to Akon about relationships. Akon, who recently released a single with Eminem, explained that as an African (Ak’ is from a very prominent music family in Senegal) he believes in polygamy. His father had four wives, all of whom he considers “Mom”.

It also turns out that Akon has taken up a Senegalese lifestyle here, because after a little hesitation, the singer-producer admitted that he has his own multi-monogamous household going down in the ATL!

Cause you know, all Africans believe in polygamy. Anyway, supposedly Miss Info has the scoop over at her Celebrity Drama Podcast on the Hot97 web site. But with no show descriptions, I have no idea which episode is the relevant one.

Comments
mamazilla wrote:

this just reminded me that coetzee’s novel “disgrace” is being made into a film with john malkovich cast as david lurie – http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0445953/

if i remember correctly, in the novel ( set in post apartheid south africa) lurie’s daughter enters into a polygamist marriage with her neighbor.

Posted 29 Sep 2006 at 11:35 am ¶

dcase wrote:

Despite its illegality, polygamy is quite rampant in Utah and other Western states. There seems to be an apprehension among the authorities to go after them. I wonder why? Hmm…it is possible that Ruby Ridge and Waco have something to do with that. Maybe Akon should move out there. On the other hand, they might not be so patient with him and his ilk. Recall what happened in Philly.

Posted 29 Sep 2006 at 3:59 pm ¶

Kevin wrote:

That’s what I’m talking about! lol. Go, Akon!

Posted 01 Oct 2006 at 1:45 pm ¶

monique wrote:

IT ISNT LAWFUL IN CHRISTIANITY TO BE POLYGAMOUS. AKON IS MUSLIM. SO ITS OK FOR HIM TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE WIFE.
ALOT OF BLACKS NEED TO LEARN TO THINK FOR THEMSELVES INSTEAD OF FOLLOWING WHAT SUPERSTARS ARE DOING. I BET NOT ONE OF U THOUGHT ABOUT HOW THE WOMAN WOULD FEEL THAT THE MAN KEEPS TAKEING UP DIFFERENT WIVES. I BET THAT SLIPPED ALOT YOUR MINDS.

Posted 09 Oct 2006 at 12:14 pm ¶

Joyel wrote:

First of all, polygamy has its bad side also.(directed to the person who thought polygamy is good for the African American community, psh). If you’ve ever even talked to anyone who is in a polygamous relationship, rather than just watching a television show or using your own personal desires. It’s not all dandilions and dumplin’s.
Its very hard in polygamy to treat EVERY wife fairly. If you have 5 wives, you need to give 5 wives the same thing. You also need to provide a bedroom for each wife because most beds can only support 2 people sleeping within it. Also, even if there were a bed for five wives there’d be an argument about which wife sleeps next to the husband b.c if one gets to sleep next to the husband and the other doesn’t–that’s not fair. Also, along with a bedroom for each wife, there is a bedroom for the children. And if you have 7+ children–that would be a lot of bedrooms. So obviously you would need to be very rich for supporting a polygamous relationship. Believe me, I know because my uncle is in a polygamist relationship (of which he isn’t following the rules to it because he’s not treating his wives fairly). And he told my grandfather why he couldn’t let all 3 of his wives visit us at the same time:

they were all jealous of each other. (Apparently) I can imagine that deep down inside without saying it; each woman has their own jealousies. Also, have we forgot about polyandry???? (hmm, many of you may not know what that means. The woman is so looked down upon in this society is sickening. Learn something– search the word. You’d find nothing but a mere definition for it. Search polygamy, you have 1000’s of sites on it. A little bit unfair, don’t you think? I think that if polygamy is allowed than polyandry should be allowed. (also, polygamy means a plural marriage– it’s not even a word which means 1 man and several wives. But since the man rules, polygamy has been kind of adopted to that meaning).

Men have to think about the times of today and the feelings of women. Children aren’t everything. And anyway, the more population, the more at a loss we are. That’s why I’m determined not to have any children, or any husband(s) in my lifetime. I think its a waste of my time that needn’t be bothered with. Instead I rather help with the children that are already suffering and on earth (by adopting them) rather than getting with a man and having 4 other sister wives to create more children.

My opinion. It’s a long one. Enjoy

Posted 12 Oct 2006 at 10:17 pm ¶

Ann wrote:

Great post, Joyel.

There is an asian country, I’m not sure if it is Nepal or Tibet, where one woman marries all the brothers in a family. That is one type of polyandry.

Polyandry would be better, as there would be much LESS humans in the world, but it would be hard to get more than one man to agree to polyandry, as it already impossible to get them to agree to MONOGAMY!

Eli Rothblatt.

Having numerous children just for the sake of numbers is not only cruel to the children but downright stupid. There is not strength in numbers.

There is strength in bringing children into the world who are WANTED AND APPRECIATED.

Laying up and grinding out infant after infant with numerous females is something that dogs, bulls and stallions do. And they are animals ( and my humblest apologies to all the animals out there I may have offended.)

And as to the black communtity pumping out more babies and taking on polygamy; that disgraceful immoral behaviour is already going on in the so-called “man-sharing” that some black women are doing.

No man is worth that heartache, disease or psychological trauma.

The human race has bred enough like rats and roaches.

Besides, it can get very expensive building all those bedrooms onto the house.

Posted 12 Oct 2006 at 11:40 pm ¶

Joyel wrote:

Greater post, Ann!

Finally there is another woman in this world who thinks such as I does. For the most part, I’m running into women who can see themselves in that kind of relationship. The relationships doesn’t even make sense in this society now as it is (to be honest). There is so much jealousy that goes into it. And men…think about treating every woman fairly! With every little thing, down to the clothes in their wardrobe to the quality time you spend with each one.

It’s also drastic to think about why polygamy may have risen in the first place in this world. Back then, more wives meant more children, more children meant more availiable workers on the field, more avaliable workers on the field meant more food on the plate and more money! So obviously it would have been sensible to be in a polygamous relationship, just to survive BUT that was long ago.

Now look at a polygamous relationship in 2006; more wives means more children, more children means more clothes, beds, and food. More clothes, beds and food means you need more money. So would it make sense to even start a polygamous relationship when even the monogamous ones are hard to financially overcome? I think not, maybe it would be easier if there werent’ any child labor laws (like back then) but wipe your tears men, there are.

Even the Bible gives advice to stay away from polygamous marriages. I read one passage from the Bible in the Old Testament that explains a situation where two wives get into an dispute about inheritance. That probably happens a lot in polygamous marriages, usually they settle it through giving it to the first wife but doesn’t that also contradict the rule of treating every wife fairly??? I think so…if it doesn’t. Please speak on that.

Also, if polygamy was allowed: think about the competition that would arise from it. Look at the Morman polygamists in Utah, you already have them throwing teen boys out into a deserted area to die so they can get more women to marry. Thankfully, usually the ‘lost boys of polygamy’ (search it) don’t die but they do have a HUGE new outlook on the aspects of polygamy. Better believe it…

Also, why create more children when you can help the children already suffering. In my point of view, I see that as really selfish. We already have a problem, why create a new one?

So my question is:

Why, oh why, is polygamy STILL needed?

Posted 13 Oct 2006 at 3:55 pm ¶

Adina wrote:

Akon is just getting publicity for himself by bringing up the practice of polgyamy. In this American hiphop culture, the pimp and player character are very prevalent and accepted. So, this is another way for Akon to display from his roots “the player” and his original pimpology as an African.

I guess he is doing more good then harm, but only time will tell. Definitely, go to his website, and see for yourself. The main video on his site is him and his wife travelling to South Africa and maybe a bit of Senegal and being welcomed over there. Also, definitely watch the “Pot of Gold” video he has. It is a very wise view of the history of racism, and where we are today.

If you didn’t already know, Senegal’s president Abdoulaye Wade who is 81 years old is married to Viviane Wade, a white Christian from France and they’ve been married for more than 50 years.
http://www.akononline.com

Posted 29 Oct 2006 at 10:18 am ¶

#1Queen of Chicago wrote:

Wow, I am in complete shock guys because I have just found out yesterday that my “drop dead gorgeous” Jamaican guyfrom FL. that I met in person in ‘05 and I have been talking to (long distance for a min.) currently believes/practices/and lives in a polygamous lifestyle and has maybe 1-2 wives/women and two beautiful daughters by I guess his 1st wife. Listenb-4 yall start snapping off, we were only really good-good friends so its not like he cheated on me, ok. He is such a handsome loving young guy, I can not say one bad thing about him period so far,… but now today I am “frozen in time” like woah hold up you’ve just dropped a tone of info on me, I’m like woah-woah back up a bit, ya know…because of course I am a young beautiful African American(lil on the spoiled side especially in the man dept, one of chi-towns finest, if you no what I mean, holla somebody!), Christian girl, highly educated w/2 degrees, etc,… and just when I thought I found a winner, a great catch, a great Jamaican guy/blackman…I slowly but surely find out that 2 other women also think that he is a great guy bec. they’ve got 2 him b-4 I did,of course. My life continues to get exciting I need to write a book about the things that I encounter, which is why I love to travel and meet new people. But, I really have to catch myself fast bec. I have to be honest with you guys, I’m considering it bec. I really like him, he is fineass hell, a hard worker, a great provider, communicator, friend and lover (meaning he stresses love of family, doing the right things in life to have a good and prosperous life and future here in America). We have already been discussing children&marriage etc.,prior to me finding this out,… (actually the 2nd day after we met he sort of mentioned it but I just thought it was a cute gesture, nothing serious but surprise he was dead serious) I do not have children yet and I’d always considered him as my baby father bec. of his honesty, charming personality, humor, intellect, masculinity, etc… and I know he is a great father, he loves children. He wants a son now and more children with me in the future and he wants me to live in FL. with the family. I need some insight fast bec. I know my mother, grandmother, aunts, uncles and family would probably kill me for even considering it bec. God knows that I wasn’t raised that way.

Hey, but just keeping it real, there is a lot of “man sharing”, “baby’s daddy”, “babymamas”, “numerous single families by one male” that is prevalent in the hood/African American culture and even other cultures and has been done in secretcy as well as broad open daylight, it appears to mirror a similar a design/ trend of polygamy, not to say that that it is right, but I am just saying, whose to say these days. Personally, I never thought that I would have came across this issue in Oct.31,2006 but it has been revealed to me that polygamy still exists on the downlow. My Jamaican guy stressed the importance of one love in the family, financial support and structure and order in the household and he basically wants to know if I am “in”(meaning do I approve) so that we can go to the next step! Now, I’m left to decide if it is right for me either way he says he respects my decision…Holla at the Queen!

#1Queen of Chicago

Posted 31 Oct 2006 at 9:49 am ¶

shayla wrote:

akon you is one of my biggest fan and i really want to get to meet you. you are so fine i just can’t get my mind off of you so i’m just plannin on meeting you. please come to louisiana because this is where you have alot of friends and fans. everybody is counting on you out here. please read this as quick as you can.please write me back and let me know how you feel about this. come to opelousas at opelousas junior high school and sing for us.well i just hope you can come.
peace,love, write back.

Posted 28 Nov 2006 at 3:57 pm ¶

Anonymous wrote:

is akon a muslim

Posted 09 Dec 2006 at 5:54 am ¶

tina wrote:

All Africans do not believe in polygamy. I have been married to my husband who is African, (kenyan to be exact), for 7 years and he has no other wives. We travel to Africa often and believe it or not Africa is westernized for the most part. I just hate when people put Africans all in one boat. There are 50 different countries in Africa. These pepole are so different and for some ignorant people to say that all of them practice polygamy is so stupid. I am African American and my husband treat me so much better than any american man has. I am not trying to down american men, I am just trying to strech my point. So what if this guy has more than more wife….. is he any different from these american men who are married and sleep around on thier wives. At least the African women know that they are not the only woman in the realtionship. Don’t pass judgement on akon. He is not form here and he comes from a different culture than we do. He makes good music so let’s just stay out of his personal business. Now if he makes a fucked up album then we can bash him until then fall of of him and his wives…..if this rumor has any truth to it anyway. And people please remember that Africans are a diverse group of people and we should not put them in one category.

Posted 21 Dec 2006 at 8:08 pm ¶

bill wrote:

AKON IS A MAH FUCKIN P I M P! Let the man do what he wants as long as he and his wives are happy!

Posted 01 Feb 2007 at 4:20 pm ¶

chris wrote:

as Devin the Dude best put it: “do what the f*ck you wanna do…”

Posted 04 Feb 2007 at 4:19 am ¶

Michael wrote:

Hey dcase, 2nd comment…polygamy ISN’T quite rampant in Utah, so you know. In the mid- 1800’s yeah, not now…just so you’re aware!

Posted 08 Jul 2007 at 12:39 am ¶

Alonyah wrote:

I am glad to hear this, but if my people would understand that we are destintes from Africa and has been taught another peoples ways not our true ways. Part of our problem as a people is we have left our Power in the Old Testament as they call it.

Our families are in trouble we have more women then men more so among us because of different things in which we all know of such as prison and etc. Our families are suffering and the women are single to long, divorced and more not understanding that a man has been created to have more then one wife and this is great as long as the men be honest, truthful but because we have taken on other peoples ways this is the result. Lies and deceit and the women except that is American place is not doing anything for us as a people. So polygamy is one solution to our sitution among other things we need to do. If we women would learn to truly love each other as family should we would have best friends and a man that would make sure he loves us and takes care of his children. There is so much i would like to say on this subject and more if i am give the opportunity i feel it would be a great help to my people, the African American community. We have taken on someones elses ways and don’t know who we really are as a people.

Posted 18 Jan 2008 at 4:46 pm ¶

Tina wrote:

First i would like to say this is something that should be considered since there are so many women more than men. More so black women for our problem is much greater. We have been mislead by this Western World, we must remember that we come from our ancestor who were slaves that came from another side of the world. At one time all of the African continet and in the East have practiced this type of life style.

Now that does not men a man can just do what ever he wants and not be charged by the creator. One must be true, honest and real even thou it may cost you not to have the African American women from this side of the world. For we no nothing of our true history as a people nor do we take the time to study. It has been said put the information in a book and the majoridy of us will not read it.

Also the bible has spoken of this type of life style for a long time we must move higher as a people to show the world that we do know how to love for real mostly or women and of course our brothers need a lesson in what love is really all about. It is not just about sex even thou sex has it’s part to play. We have lost all love for each other and ourselves as a people. This can be one of the solutions to bring our families back into the strength that it should be. Women being best friends, sharing the duties of the house and also putting our finances together to grow strong. Love is a wonderful thing and people will say how can a man love more than one women it is ease for a man but a women can truely only love her man that is the way it is or she is considered a whore sorry i had to say that. This Western Place is hypocritical in so any ways and this has been from the being, we must not forget what type of place we are dealing with. Everybody can almost do what they want as long as they can help there own or you better have money. Sister’s let’s love each other as we should and build our families to greatness. If you know science the female has 2 X chromosomes and the male has a Y & a X the X chromosome is for the female and the Y is male so in the beginning our power made 3 females to 1 male and now we have a greater problem for this was and is for the development the population and it is still for us to grow now more than ever, for we are lessing and as a people. We need to show the power of love for each other male and female.

I have so much more to present but it can’t be all said at once. There are question people have and i have the answer’s try me.

Posted 18 Jan 2008 at 7:42 pm ¶

#1Queen of Chicago wrote:

First of all I would like to thank you all for your honest opinions on this subject it has helped me out a lot..

I would like to say (to Tina) that there is a major misunderstanding of African-Americans not studying, acknowledging and embracing their culture and history from Western Africa before the inception of slavery in America in the 1600’s. I want to make it known that yes I am a young African-American Woman that has embraced my culture 1000% which is why I love my people 1000%, which is why I refer to myself as a Queen because I recognize Nefetiti, Cleopatra, so many more,etc. Honey, It may not cost a man a loss of love from and African-American woman from this side of the world (as you implied in one of your statements) I make a conscious attempt to connect with my roots even though I do not know the EXACT tribe that my ancestors came from (I’m being sarcastic). I’m a little irritated by those who want to assume that African-American women are completely oblivious to there AFRICAN culture and history prior to slavery “WE ARE NOT THAT IGNORANT”. However, that does not change the fact that we are AFRICAN-AMERICANS born and raised here in America hundreds of years after the atrocities that our ancestor had to endure because of SLAVERY. I want to add that I LOVE MY PEOPLE 1000%, therefore I have and I continue to make a conscious effort to embrace all cultures of the African Diaspora because unless I have a Genealogy test done I still do not know exactly which village my ancestors lived in 450 or so years ago (I’m being sarcastic). I’ll have you know that I have a minor in African studies, I have visited Jamaica, I have studied and I can speak FRENCH(which is spoken in West Africa, West Indies etc,.) (I study and understand read and write Jamaican dialect (which is called Patios) I have a large African Art collection, I’ve frequent all Museums and African or Caribbean Festival etc. However, it will never convert me to being a women of 400 or so plus years ago in Africa (sweetheart), I’m still an African-American or Afro-American woman (whatever floats your boat ) of today and it will never change that reality. Now, I agree some people do not read, research or study much about the past of traditional ways from Africa because they are to busy struggling to make ends meet or whatever there excuse maybe and some people are closed minded to the world and or change back to African traditional ways as a solution to save our family structure and financial support system and future but that does not mean that applies to all African American people, I am not one of those people that you consider to be ignorant! I see how this is one solution that can strengthen love, trust and financial foundation in the African American culture even though it was not taught to me I have researched and discovered it on my own(I’m not Lazy,being sarcastic again, you know that stereotype that blacks are lazy) and I do understand it as an option! However, some people will argue that the Bible is against it, yes polygamy is presented it the Old Testament it was also taught that it was condemned as well by God so that is why it is different for Americans to easily adopt, as they were taught different beliefs, values and biblical principles which are obvious. But, I still feel it is up to what each individual chooses and feels is right for them if this is their case because as I said I’m in Love and it actually sees no limits or boundaries at all no matter what anyone says or beliefs to be right or wrong to me because I know in my HEART I should be with the Man that I love, whether he has 5 or more wives. Love is very powerful and a natural thing you never no when it can happen to you.
Ok now that I have addressed those misconceptions about African- American women knowledge of their history, culture and religion, I pointed out in my previous posting on 10/06 that I was presented with this option and I had communicated that I was shocked because I had just found out about his lifestyle. I was aware of this type of lifestyle in African but I was not aware of this/his lifestyle here in American. That was basically the point I was trying to make and once it was presented to me then I had to question everything, my beliefs, my upbringing, my feelings of love etc., etc., Maybe this decision would be easier for a woman that was more closely connected to this way of life but it was different for me at that time because I had just found it out. I know what LOVE is, it is just a different way of life that I was not currently accustomed to living. I had pointed out that I was open to considering it because I do understand my culture and all the dynamics of family structure etc. I had to make myself clear to you again, I do not like for others to assume that people do not read and they are ignorant and unaware so I had to address a few point that were made which I saw as being very destructive to the entire discussion. Again, my man has not lost the love of his African-American women from this side of the World because our LOVE has gotten even stronger thank you very much,so i should/will not be left behind nor will I go overlooked by my Jamaican man Honey! I am an African-American woman that understands and loves her Black men, culture and community more than we give her credit for or are willing to acknowledge her for and I was not born in Africa, nor Jamaica, I was born raised and educated in the United States of America!

Thanks Again,
#1Queen of Chicago

(I had to make some minor corrections to name in spellings sorry about it)

Posted 22 Apr 2008 at 12:54 pm ¶

Sister Yeye Olade wrote:

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Polygamy is the fastest growing marriage system in Blackamerikkka! The Black muslims,Rastas,Black people into Yoruba religion, Ancient Egyptian religion are all doing it! I started doing what I call “Positive Polygamy” in amerikkka before I went BACK to AFRICA,Nigeria,Yorubaland with my late BLACKamerikkkan husband and am now in a polygamous situation with a Yoruba family. Believe me those of us in it can practice GOOD relationships for the Sister wives,the BLACK children and the great Black men who share fairly and squarely. Check us out at:
yeyeolade.wordpress.com
(under “Positve Polygamy” and
blackpolygamy.wordpress.com
Your Sister who went Back to Africa,30 years ago ,
Yeye Akilimali Funua Olade

Posted 28 Apr 2008 at 8:22 am ¶

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