FORUM FROM BLACKPLANET.COM ON POLYGAMY,NOV.2007

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POLYGAMY Is The Fastest Growing Marriage System In BLACKamerikkka!

Category: African-American Related
Posted: Nov 3 ,2007

The fastest growing marriage system in Black america is POLYGAMY-Black muslims are doing it, Black people doing Yoruba/Ghana/Ancient Egyptian religions in america are all doing it.
All men,Black,white,yellow etc. are polygamous by nature so Sisters should give up the white fairy tale that men are so-called “faithful”-their physical structure doesn’t allow that and women make sure they disturb them plenty to get their attention all the time worldwide.
Monogamy has never really worked anyway
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SUNGODZ
Male, Age Private, Houston, TX
Posted Nov 3

PREACH ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Salone_82
Female, 25, Brooklyn, NY
Posted Nov 3

well if you want to keep me and three other women you betta be bringing in the dough. Each wife needs her own mini mansion and money to feed the kids and shop. I need a yearly income of at least 160,000 (after taxes) to be comfortable. WHAT, you think you’re gonna have the benefit of having three wives and not pay for it???? Don’t think some men in Africa have many wives just cause they are horny. An African man needs many hands (wives and kids) to help with the farm and livestock. He also pays dearly for it. To keep his wives happy he has to make sure they have everything they need and want (within reason), he must send the kids to the best schools, and his most difficult task of all is to keep each wife happy sexually, emotionally, and make her feel like she is the most important thing in the world. Most of you brothas can’t even keep one woman happy so fall back.

blackamania
Male, Age Private, United Kingdom
Posted Nov 3

@ Salone

Words of wisdom!!! People seem to only associate polygamy with sexual gratification. I am not married, not a polygamist. However as an African and a man, I do not think the white way is the right way. What do I mean? Well I believe that black people got into monogamy through the introduction of the white culture and bible. While even the white man preaches monogamy, he keeps a woman in his home but goes out to sleep with his “slaves”. While the white man asks you to look at polygamist moslems and Africans as negative, he introduces the “swinger” lifestyle, even to the point where he marries a woman but is caught in public bathrooms with little boys. Why marry one woman and keep the others outside? When your woman is not looking, you sneak behind her back to get freaky; why not just let people know what’s going on “officially”?

I am not arguing for black people to suddenly become polygamous, however, I just do not think that it is a negative thing. If a woman wants to have more than one man, and the men involved are cool with it, why not? Same goes for men. However we need to stop the bull crap, especially men. Many just cannot manage to stay with one woman for the entireity of their lives.

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CHOKEonT…
Female, Age Private, Riverside, CA
Posted Nov 3

Well since I am definitely of the opinion that women need at least 2-3 of todays men-,I will also support polygamy, however, I dont see todays black man multi-tasking with so many wives to support and satisfy- but if a group of folk wanna do it POWER TO THE PEOPLE…

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MsMerising
Female, 28, Los Angeles, CA
Posted Nov 3

It is, and too many Black women are suffering because of it.

What I saw in the NOI/”Muslim” and Hebrew Isrealite communitites in ATL was sick. Sistas abandoned with children with no child support. Going to jail for set-ups from the guy. Busted credit. Domestic violence. Jealousy from other non-legal “wives”.Malnutrition from forced vegan lifestyles.

Man. Sick sh**. No better than the crazy white folks in Utah.

Ms.Merising

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siamus
Male, 29, Albany, NY
Posted Nov 3

booooo

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CARA-MELLO
Male, 30, Jacksonville, FL
Posted Nov 3

still waiting for the benefits of being married. let alone to 3-4 of of.

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971962
Male, Age Private, Santa Monica, CA
Posted Nov 3

my women won’t do it

they share me but, they’re american and they can’t handle the marriage part

instead they try to get me to marry ONE of them

but, that offsets my whole sphere and one can’t out-rank the other

only one girl was down – she brought it up – ‘marry us all’

the others thought it was cute but, it ain’t gonna happen – i marry one, i’ll insult and lose the others

otherwise, they’ll follow me to the ends of the earth

just power plays and fighting for dominance – got two alphas, can’t handle anymore strong american black women – they’ll bury me – they’re aggressive and will be second to none

the others are mellower, they accept the two at the top

at least, they don’t fight each other cuz, it would be to the death

pimpin’ ain’t easy…

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SummahRain
Female, 29, Atlanta, GA
Posted Nov 4

This is why polygamy in America will NEVER work..because you have men with the mentality like 971962 making it synonymous with PIMPIN.

RI-DAYUM-DICULOUS!

I’m with Choke.

I KNOW I need more than one husband, so I can’t be mad at the men who want more than one mate.

@BLACK- You’re wrong. To speak on the “nature” of a being is treading thin ice. What we refer to as our “nature” is a combination of social, political, emotional and physical CONDITIONING.

The reality is that human “nature” is MUTABLE and changes depending on the NEED during that time.

HUMAN BEINGS are not monogamous by “nature”. Don’t try to give men a pass.

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SummahRain
Female, 29, Atlanta, GA
Posted Nov 4

*Clapping for Salone*..

MARRY these women and PROVIDE for them.

Broke men can’t have multiple wives!

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Salone_82
Female, 25, Brooklyn, NY
Posted Nov 4

SummahRain, you said it better
BROKE MEN CAN’T HAVE MULTIPLE MEN.

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971962
Male, Age Private, Santa Monica, CA
Posted Nov 4

“This is why polygamy in America will NEVER work..because you have men with the mentality like 971962 making it synonymous with PIMPIN”

pimpin’ is needed – it’s the art of dealing with multiple women

now, whether you BUILD with that or you degrade women with it is up the man

but, the men who don’t have women or can’t keep women don’t have any pimpin’ skills

and women respond to men with these skills – again, once she’s responded, if you come at her with some ill sh*t, she’ll be gone – so, it has nothing to do with using or degrading women and everything to do with being able to get one in the first place – much less two or three

pimpin’ is an art like karate is an art – i could beat my woman do with it ir use it to defend her

it’s all in what you do with such abilities

and my women love some good pimpin’ so, don’t judge darlin’ – it’s unbecoming

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SummahRain
Female, 29, Atlanta, GA
Posted Nov 4

@Salone:

Honestly, I could see myself in a polygamous relationship with a man who provided well for me and my sister wives. I don’t want a traditional marriage. I know that. Be it polygamy, polyandry or a mixture of both, I’m all for it.

But all this living in the same house bullcrap…depending on income from all the wives…that is just ri-dayum-diculous.

Of the people I know who practice “polygamy” (I call what they do po-nigga-my), all of them are so dysfunctional.

The women work and support their own households or they live in a house collectively with everyone where there is public assistance and poverty involved. (What is the friggin point?!) There is a tremendous amount of manipulation on the part of the husband…pitting one wife against the other or playing favorites. The men take no part in rearing the children. The women have no say-so in the choosing of the additional wives…

It’s just chaos and imbalance.

I don’t want any part of that.

The truth of the matter is that most of these men can’t feed or lead themselves, let alone a family or two. They think of polygamy as a sexal game and not as an institution where everyone has responsibilities and obligations that serve the whole.

Give me a responsible man who takes pride in caring for his family(ies) and treating everyone with equal respect and admiration and I’d marry him in a hot second and love my sister wives as sisters an raise all their children as my own.

You po-nigga-mists? Miss me on that.

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SummahRain
Female, 29, Atlanta, GA
Posted Nov 4

@971962:

You’re playing on words.

What you just gave is YOUR definition of pimping.

We all know what the implications are- despite your attempts to sugar coat.

We can agree to disagree on this one.

To each his/her own.

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971962
Male, Age Private, Santa Monica, CA
Posted Nov 4

“Honestly, I could see myself in a polygamous relationship with a man who provided well for me and my sister wives. ”

that’s exactly what i’m talking about

my women WON’T marry me OR live together – this spreads my resources – but, we’re doing fine. plus, our business just got WAY better

i couldn’t possibly maintain this broke

i would be HONORED to have them as my wives – but, black american women ain’t trying to hear it – they’ll just try to wait it out til one of them leaves first

but, i still wouldn’t marry the ONE that was left because i need more than one woman

i think the mani reason a woman wants to be married is so she can possess you all to herself – but, i don’t fit in anyone’s pocket – i’m a large spirit and i don’t want a leash on me from just ONE woman

if this doesn’t work out here, i’ll go to a country where i can

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971962
Male, Age Private, Santa Monica, CA
Posted Nov 4

“Give me a responsible man who takes pride in caring for his family(ies) and treating everyone with equal respect and admiration and I’d marry him in a hot second and love my sister wives as sisters an raise all their children as my own.”

i wish my women said things like this – maybe, with time…

i respect you. i have never heard a black woman think and speak so clearly

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971962
Male, Age Private, Santa Monica, CA
Posted Nov 4

“What you just gave is YOUR definition of pimping.”

that’s all i have to offer is my definition – but, now, you know what i mean when i use the term

all that stuff you just said about going for it if he was righteous?

that’s good pimpin’ to have you like that

any man that could get a strong and intelligent woman like YOU to say all that and say all that has pimped the hell outta you and you liked it

that man has his sh*t down to an art – the oldest art – getting and keeping women

he has manipulated you in the way you like and pushed all the right buttons and maintained you in this state of bliss and approval

he got you opened ALL THE UP if you would gladly accept other wives

why can’t all men do that to you?

1. cuz pimpin’ ain’t easy

2. most pimps abuse their power

3. most men havne’t been trained how to pull a woman like you and get you to like his other women

good pimpin’, mami – nothing more or less

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971962
Male, Age Private, Santa Monica, CA
Posted Nov 4

furthermore,

you yourself are already PRIMED and waiting to receive serious good pimpin’

all up on a public board posting “Make Me Like It and, You Can Have ANYTHING YOU WANT”

anyman that ain’t hittin’ your box right now don’t have pimp instincts and that’s why he’ll always be stuck with one/none female

or, he’s booked already…

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971962
Male, Age Private, Santa Monica, CA
Posted 12:00 am

@Salone

i like how you think

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getaclue69
Female, 38, Cameron, NC
Posted 1:58 am

its in our “nature” to kill a nigga when we catch him with a ho bouncing up and down on toop of him too but is it wrong?

I could care less about polygamy. If thats what they want I say g for it….BUT…they should automatically be ineligible for any state assistance…no free food, free housing, NOTHING. If they want to prove that its a better way to live let them do so without us paying for it.

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3 thoughts on “FORUM FROM BLACKPLANET.COM ON POLYGAMY,NOV.2007

  1. Question: “Is it better for a man to have several wives or several whores.” Black men how can we continue to have sex with Black women who are not our wife(s) and expect those women to continue to be healthy and mentally happy folks? The short answer is intellengent and capable Black men are damaging unmarried and single Black women while creating whores for later men who come after us and abandon them exactly the same way we have used and abandoned those Black women. Sex outside of marriage purely for recreational use causes Black women and men simply act like play things. Therefore why not polygamy where Black women would be the prized posession of prosperous HUSBANDS who covet them and build financial empires dedicated to their uplift?

    We can’t have it both ways. Unregulated sex and an over supply of Black women for marriage purposes causes many Black women to simply be whores never obtaining a marriage which is protective ans secure. Thus by having unmarried sex (unregulated because the man can do as he wishes and the woman has to bear the consequences due to no regulations) Black women are type cast as whores pandering to the lowest denominator. We need a NEW DEAL. We need a marriage system which supports us as people and brings protection to all of our community.

    We have this in our hands as Black man to redeem our Black women. To not do so defines Black men as creations who in fact do not recognize nor prize the products of our prosperity, Black women and children. In this way we do not measure up to other races. This is the quiet secret. Catch a clue, Black man.

    Holla

  2. Shalom,

    Hi my name is free and I am a practicing Israelite from Brooklyn New York. Very sucessful, young, and talented and was apart of the polyamgous relationship. I am what you can say the first wife. My man had a previous marriage with children. His family comes from a very large polygamous family. At first i was very resistent. I was so conformed to monagmous lifestyle of our white counterparts. As sometime and prayer and gave it a try. It was nice it may things easier like cooking, chores, and spending time with my man. It allowed mne to be his friend again since he had time to think about me while we were apart. My sisterwife and I became comfortable with each other. We both liked and loved the same man and did not want to see him happy. She too was very sucessful and young. There are some bad times like when they go on vacations or people become ashamed of being in a polygamous relationship.Honestly would I ever go back into a polygamous relationship? No. because I honestly gave it a try and realized it was not for me. As for my husband I do not know what he would want to do , but hopefully we can talk about it. to all my brothas and sisters the key to a good and lasting relationship whether it is polygamous or monogamous is GOD and having GOD as the foremost thing in your relationship. When you take him out of the equation things go crazy. it is not real cause everything comes from God. Brotha please do not think that polygamy is for sex only it is not, it is buliding a successful family. Sisters do not think you man only thinks about you. that is not the case it is there DNA to look and desire and other women. Shalom for now

  3. Sister Free, I feel for you. You went into polygamy to stay in it and now you have left. But it’s not clear to us what really made you leave?You were getting along with your co-wife. Your husband was not partial,so just what made you leave? I think you should pray about it. God will surely tell you whether you should pack it up totally or not. It seems you are waiting for your husband to say a few things to you about coming back? Well let it be so because I don’t see why you had to leave. Breaking up any marriage means you must really ask God whether God wants it that way cause in life there are always things you do that in the long run means you made a mistake about, in this case leaving your marriage. Pray,pray,pray and let God tell you the final thing on this marriage. I’ll be praying for you too, Sister!

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